If I’m not getting referrals, who’s fault is it?

I’m in a number of great networking groups, like BNI and Rainmakers. These groups create an environment where members can refer business to one another and help each other grow and succeed. It’s a great way to bring referrals into your business and I highly recommend joining a group like this. Getting referrals is one of the best ways to market your business.

Many of the members of these groups have an extremely positive attitude, work hard, and continuously improve themselves in order to grow their businesses. They fine-tune their messaging, they give lots of referrals, and they participate in educational opportunities.

Other members, however, join groups like this with the mindset of “what can I get from this?” They show up to meetings but they don’t have a system for giving referrals to others, they don’t have a clear message, and they don’t really invest time into educating their referral team. Then they complain that they are not getting referrals.

If you are not getting referrals from your networking group, here are some things to look at.

  • Are you showing up with at least one referral to give at every meeting?
  • Are you clear and specific about what type of referrals you are looking for?
  • Are you consistent in your message?
  • Is your product or service something that people want to buy?
  • Do you speak well in public?
  • Are you easy to contact via phone, email, etc.?
  • Do you project a positive attitude?
  • Do you have a reputation for being trustworthy?
  • Do you let your personal side show a little bit?

If the answer to any of these questions is “no”, it might be time to evaluate why you are not getting referrals and see what changes you can make.

Many people join networking groups only to quit six months later because they “didn’t get any referrals” from it. In most cases, there is only one person to blame.

Don’t be that person.

Is “meeting people” enough?

As a member of Rainmakers, BNI, and a number of online social networks, I am constantly asking and being asked this question: who do you want to meet?

This is a great way to network because it helps others understand how to help you and who the specific person is that you want to meet. However, is it enough to just meet lots of people, even if they are good prospects for you? What is your game plan for approaching them? How scalable is it to meet a lot of people if you don’t have a system?

Here are some things I think about as I meet people:

  1. How is this introduction getting me closer to my goals?
  2. Who is in this person’s network?
  3. Is this person a prospect, referral partner, supplier, friend, or something else?
  4. Who introduced us and will this introduction help that person?
  5. Is there any way that I can help this person?
  6. Is this type of introduction repeatable and scalable?
  7. What will I do when I meet this person?
  8. Is there any indication that this person wants to talk to me?
  9. Do I already have someone in my network who fills this particular need?
  10. Is this good timing for me?

These questions help keep me accountable and on target when I am being introduced to someone. So much of the time I see people with an interest in “meeting people” but when it comes down to it, they don’t have a specific reason, plan, or strategy to figure out which introductions make sense or which ones to pursue.

It’s perfectly ok to decline introductions if they don’t align with your business goals. It doesn’t mean that you don’t like that person or that you’re mean and selfish. It just means that there are only so many people you can meet without sacrificing your productivity and so it’s important to be strategic and methodical about who you meet.

Meeting new people is great. It can lead to new customers, referral partners, suppliers, and friends. However, make sure your strategy goes beyond just looking for introductions. Help your network understand your needs and be strategic about who you meet.